Jingle Bell <> Anger Bell !!!

Anger men, Anger women, Anger all, and Anger all the way!!!

we seems to replace the rhythm

Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle all the way!!!

We have very less Jingle Bell around and more Anger Bell all around.. we don't like to miss any opportunity to show anger when we find someone done some mistake.. In day to day life I see people using this opportunity like if they don't grab it now they can never grab it..people don't want to miss any valid chance which give them genuine reason to be angry. Though we all know if we miss this chance to be angry and don't utilize it on proper time. late we may not be able to use it and that is good thing to do..I think this is only chance that everyone must try to miss but seems none is ready to miss.. You do a small mistake and be sure u r going to get scolding on very time. U feel bad and think yourself oh ..what is this ??? I didn't do it knowingly it was just a mistake but this person scold me badly.. but u know when u r at his position u do same..when someone do a small mistake u just don't miss a moment and try to use the best word u do remember to scold him/her that u ever learned ..U try to find a very best word that can fit to hurt him/her deeply..

why we forget that we all do mistake in life and when we do mistake and if in case other person just talk with us rather than scolding us..we feel good and we try not to repeat same mistake..I think rather then showing angry on someone mistake, why don't we try to be clam and give them best suggestion that help them not to repeat same mistake again..and it also help us to feel proud for helping other. the best way is when u see someone do some mistake just smile and tell "see u r just done some mistake. just be careful now onward to make sure u don't repeat it". if possible do suggest some way which help them for avoiding same mistake again. Also remind them not to feel guilt for doing mistake because we all do mistake..just we need to make sure we don't repeat it again.

Another reason for ringing Anger Bell is when u see things around u is not going the way as u want. again the famous Quote is ... "change the situation around u as u want BUT if u cant change the situation around u..change yourself according to the situation" .. all it says is just be happy don't get irritated even thing is not going as per your wish. try to adjust with it. at right time u see everything is fine. Just be clam.

My idea is, whatever is the situation, when u feel now u must be angry..just hold for few second .. and give yourself a change to wait for another situation that must make u angry.. don't try to utilize every valid reason that gives u right to be angry.. sometime not using right to be angry help u and help other person too to realise the mistake they have done.

Anger is not a solution. it doesn't help you not even the person who do something wrong. to realise and not to repeat same mistake..your smile on mistake will help them to realise again..so be clam.

so next time when u feel angry just ask yourself is it right time to be angry??? if u find answer is yes..just say yourself, Okay!!!..though its a right time to be angry..i want to win control on myself by not showing angry for this time.. i will be angry next time when i find more valid reason.. not being angry just help u more then the person who face it..when u r angry its harms u.. u loose relation..u loose respect from the person u were getting..anger is good but show it to yourself when u do some mistake..when other do mistake just help them with some good word so they don't repeat it again..u will get more respect from them ..that will give u a very good satisfaction..

Wah YOU !!!..Oh You ???

Hi Friend..
great.. i am getting your emails with comments on blog about my articles..feels nice to know that u guys are with me and give me appreciations..

if always feels good to get appreciated..and specially when u be down from life and struggling to move up.. All small happiness and small appreciation counts and give u energy to move a step ahead.. Thanks again..

I started my professional journey with all good and got success in very small frame of time..i do remember working day n night without getting tired. Everything was coming on my way ..I was working day n night but all success was coming on my way and it was like coming very effortlessly..and I became habitual to get appreciated from all..Wah You!!! U r great !!! U have lots of potential.. blah blah!!!! --WOW..what was the time.. :)

Certainly I was enjoying the good all the way and started feeling I am getting all this without putting any effort from my end..or you can say I forgot the effort i was putting from my end to get all good..I started to hoping people to appreciate me always.. even without putting any effort at all. I couldn't realised whatever appreciation I am getting is due to the hard work and dedication i was putting toward my profession..

As time comes as times goes..

My Wah YOu changed to Oh You??? All appreciation and greatness in me changed to bad comments and pity on me.. I started waiting for the day when someone comes to me and say some good word.. give some appreciation.. but still i was not ready to realise the base which had lead me success to get all appreciation..

Now I have realised the base of all appreciations and working toward to get it back..and as i am sure to get back to good again ..I am writing to my blog just if I do forget this again. I can read it here..and for all of you if it can help you someway....Just don't let change your value to Wah YOU!!! to Oh You???

Never forget "Achievement is not permanent..you get it because you deserve it..you deserve it because you put effort for it.." so never stop putting effort if you want to stay on top always..

and also I must say if u fall down still keep putting effort because it was your effort which took you to peak so be sure if u put effort , u will get success again..

"I don't regret whatever I did.. whenever I feel, I did something wrong I don't do it again but never regret for doing it in past " :)

Be weak to be strong !!!

It’s been a while I am silent and waiting for good days to come in my way. Actually I don’t remember when did I smile and felt free to laugh without any fear or trouble that might be waiting to come. Sometime I feel like I am very weak person who is always leaving in fear, even when I breath, I take slow n little to make sure fast breath don’t bring any new bad news. Every time I do face a trouble I think this might be the last one.but there is queue.. Never ending road of pain and trouble. Sometime I pray to God and say plz stop it.. I have enough pain now..No more pain plzzzzz ..Its enough now. But seems God do have some plan for me :)

So, Am I a depressed person now?? With no more strength of fighting back???
Certainly, No!!! is my answer. Because I am becoming stronger with every trouble that I face. sometime I think, was I strong before? Or becoming stronger now?? I am learning life that I might not have learned even in any book or in any institution.. .. I am becoming more stronger day by day . More Hard time coming toward me, More Lesson of life I do learn. Every hard situation makes me stronger and makes strong enough to face a new one with more ease. Now I am realizing, I was too much weak before, small problems used to disturb me, divert me from my goal. Now I am deeply drawn in pond fill with problems..I am becoming strong enough to keep focusing on my GOAL and keep moving my way..I have learned to be clam and focused. It’s all due to this painful life which is teaching me if you face enough pain, Pain itself stop making u feel it.. And you learn how to keep moving without being worried about it.

One of the best part of life is you always have something to learn from it. Every new situation gives you a new lesson. But once you face some weak moment of life you learn life more, your understanding to life reaches to a new height. so dont worry if you are facing some weak moment in life, just take it like you are becoming more stronger for life ahead!!!

Art Of Living :: A Real Artist

When we talk about artist we generally believe, someone who is involve in some creative work. Whether it is with paint or some kind of drawing, or singing a song, doing some design on computer, just creating good and new things. Artist work day and night to shape the art that he/she imagine and try bring it to the reality. Being an artist is one of the passionate works that I believe every one will accept. Painters, who have good knowledge of color, have good knowledge of brush strokes, can be called good painter or simply a good artist. A singer who know how to sing well. Where to low the pitch of voice where to make it high can be called good singer or again we can say a good artist. Same way we can talk about art of acting. Actors who make you feel he/she living your life in the screen surly can be called a good actor or a good artist.

So we can say a good art is being perfect in any field you involve with. There is no field that doesn’t require art or creativity. Here I would like to talk about our life and the way we live. We can be real artist if we know how to live the life. How to draw the curve of life, which we have imagined for our self. The day we can make the imagination of life to reality, our art is going to be successful. Life is big canvas and single art where you can fill all the colors, all the songs, all the acting. In simple word I will say living life is the only art that allow you to practice all other kind of art within the art of living and who knows how to live and fill life with all other arts can be called A Real Artist.You have to be a good actor of life to make other feel you live for them. You have to be good singer of life to make other listen the song of your life. You have to be good painter of your life to make other see curves and colors of your life.

See when we are with our parent we act as kid we never feel we are grown up and old enough to say our parent we are no more child. Yes a good artist of life always be kid for their parent make parent feel that he/she still a kid to them. This is the only way to keep getting love from parents. The very day we make them feel we are no more kid, we will really become no more kid for them and we will start missing the love that we are getting from the very first day of life. Same way to maintain other relations we have to smile cry or sometime show our anger. It’s all necessary to live life.

Art, this single word fit in every aspect of human life. We all are artist and Real Artist are those artist who knows art of living.

A relation waiting for identification

This is a story about my love. Love, a wonderful feeling within oneself, felt for the special person. I was falling into love for the first time, and falling into such beautiful relation made me feel like I was in the seventh heaven. But unfortunately it could neither be recognized nor identified. My love remained unidentified. I could not give it a name.

The ever first love I met was through internet. We started to have chats over internet. Gradually, the friendly conversations over chats led us into a deep relation of love, sharing secrets of each other. The same old keyboard turned sensitive to me, which I had been using since a year. Each and every key that I used to strike hard was get getting softer. The computer screen, which I always kept on use from sunrise to sunset turned out to be like the lovely face. Whenever, I used to chat with her over internet, I felt like she is sitting in front of me. Tears ran down from my eyes when I ever felt that she is sad and revealing her pain to me. I used to smile, laugh and even cry with her talks whenever she used to share her joys and sorrows with me. I did not even care what other used to feel regarding my relation. But it was all very pure and real for me. My heart used to beat with the every word of her and with all promises we were doing together.

We shared a very understanding relation having a very strong faith on each other and a deep intimacy for each other. Love need not be expressed or felt by seeing each other in real. For us, the heart itself spoke the feeling for love and we never asked for our pictures. Being honest, I neither saw her in my real life nor her picture. But I see her in my fantasy, whenever I close my eyes I can visualize her beautiful face in my mind. I hoped that she might feel the same way. We even had some conversations over phone but we never ever met in real. We planned to meet after we establish our career. We even decided of getting married the very first day of our visit. Together we used to plan our future living style, the number of kids we would have..haha…and all those stuffs that any couple do with the new charms of love. I even talked regarding our relationship with my family and she did the same. All of sudden, a violent storm brought a drastic change and the never ending bond called love was shattered into pieces. She had to leave me because of her family pressures. I could do nothing to make our relationship survive. With the tears in my eyes, I wished her the best for her future. I am sure she might have feel the same pain I was going through. My love could not lead to the smooth road in this life. It took more than a year for my pain to be healed and I started adjusting to my normal life.

Today, whenever I think of her, I still feel the same love for her. But people have various opinions for this relation, so called love. Whenever I shared my feelings regarding her with anyone around, they said it was not the real love, it was a virtual love. But I put a question to them, how can love be virtual? Whenever one is in love, is it necessary to see each other physically? I understand that people find it hard to believe that love can be true and real until and unless we see each other. If anyone believes in true love then one should also believe that love has no boundaries, I mean one can fall in love with anyone, anytime, and anywhere without even knowing each other.

Yes, my love affair has no identification and no recognition as well. I listen to all my friend’s love problems, their pain and suggest them the best I can. But I have no one to listen to me because my friends find it very illogical saying there is no such love existing in reality through internet. It is a Virtual love and one must meet the person, s/he loves. Though, I could never convince my friends that it was my true love, it is going to be the reality of my life.

Names of women with the growth of time

In my childhood days, I regarded women as my mother, aunt, and sister and if I met older women anywhere, I used to have an image of my granny in my mind. Any women of my age was just like a male friend for me because I didn’t find any difference in my friends whether they were male and female. For me Sonja, Ram, Biplab or Sunita all were just as friends nothing like girl or boy. And I feel now that there was no such sexual description during those days.
Gradually, with my growth, I learned more new names of women. With the analysis of my age, it was so difficult to understand the meaning of women. I am still unable to realize why it was so pleasant to learn the new name of women. It was like a first spring in my life. Falling in love, having rhythmic heart beats for someone special was such a different feeling for me. I wish I could have enough words for the explanation of such beautiful moment of my life. This part of my life has brought many changes in me emotionally.

At this current age, I have known many names of women and their respective images. I have many puzzles in my mind. I could not manage to find a proper image of a woman because I still have the names of females who are my mother, sister, granny, ex-girlfriend, someone’s wife, friends, and others, with whom I am not familiar. I have also known females suffered by husband, cheated, betrayed by their guys. Overall, I must say that all women are same having sentiments for someone especial and suffering as well.

Later, I learned a new name of women as a heart broker. Before, I had experienced such innate sentiments but now it’s just the opposite of my past. The new name of woman fears me always and I keep myself in the position of waking up from a very scary dream. This phase of understanding women was worst and the method of learning names of women still continues with the time.

With the time, life leads me in a different path and I came to know woman as whole.They are kind, softhearted, and carefree and are matured enough to find out their respective places. They play different roles are the same time such as a woman can be a mother, a wife, daughter in law, sister, and a friend as well. DOES A WOMAN JUST ACT DIFFERENTLY WITH THE AGE OR IS SHE BOUND TO PLAY ALL THE ROLE SATISFYING AND PROVIDING EQUALITY IN HER RELATIONSHIPS. I feel that we need to justify them because they are the ones who manage to play many roles at the same time. We need to leave the decision on her hand in order to play the dramatic role in her life rather then enforcing them into any role.

Being a male, after passing through such phase in my life, I thought all women are heart-broker, greedy and are only concerned about their benefit. Then I ask myself if I’m right or wrong? I do have my mother as goddess and sister as my teacher who always listen, trust and understand me. There are still other name women who are good to know and being with them is so comfortable. So, if I judge a woman as heart-broker, I ensure myself that I am completely wrong because a single woman can’t be taken as a whole.

In general, when a man suffers due to a woman, then they call them names and selfish but at that time, we forget our dear mother, sister, and friends who are always with us.If we blame women, then we need to speak for only the woman who gives suffering and pain to us. So, all women are not the same. Just a simple question helps us to find out the answer. “Have we hurt someone?” We can get the answer easily. If yes then, we ourselves can find some genuine reason behind hurting anyone. Blaming and hurting others doesn’t make you happy. We need to rethink before doing so.In conclusion, a woman remains just a woman till we don’t get familiar with them. Every thing in this world has two parts. And it depends on us either we choose the darker side or the brighter side.

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