With the change of political situation in Nepal, our leaders seem more concerned about women rights and more eager to give them facilities and opportunities. Some steps taken by them are appreciable like citizenships, now, can be issued with name of mother also. I really appreciate this step but what about the many registration forms or any application forms, which ask for details of father/husband name. I would appreciate if government takes some action to modify these kinds of forms too and put something that allows us to put mother’s name or wife’s name too. However, my concern is not here with the issue, I cannot cover all issues related to women life in an article. As we know and I too believe that women’s life is like a universe and it have much more galaxy in its part than of the real universe we see and read. Here, I want to put some light on some women leader and so-called feminist want to have 50% reservation for women. This is like the strangest rule in Nepal
What I am not able to understand is, reserving 50% place of women do help them to feel equal to man or make them feel they are just 50% weaker to man so that they need 50% protection everywhere. If they do not get any reservation, they cannot be equal to man. What I have seen is if we provide a suitable environment to a girl from childhood, she becomes as competent as male in any area without any perseveration needed. I have seen women (I will call women as a whole for teen-age girls to the aged ones to make my point easy) securing top in colleges and university without having any reservation. I even do not favor the attitude of giving award to the women who is best among the women in study. It should make them feel that you are not the best in the whole. I want them to feel when she wants to be the best; she should be best among all, not only among her gender. Once we make these small things equal, it will help them from the very beginning of life to feel equal to man. We need to develop system, which does not make them feel weaker from very childhood. We should not tell a baby girl it is not your work as you are female. You cannot do this or you should not do this.
We always are over protective towards women that makes them feel weaker rather than making them feel stronger. Just take an example, we take care of and are more protective of someone who is sick and needs more care. Sometime doctors say that we should not make them feel like they are sick. Give him/her confidence and be as if nothing is wrong because self-confidence will lead to rapid recovery.
I am not ready to believe that women are weak anyway and need protection or reservation to become equal to man. All they need is to improve self-confidence and to improve self-confidence; they need a suitable environment at home from very childhood that will help them to grow with feeling of equality. If a feminist really want to work for women equality, she should start from her own house and work toward how to educate everyone so that a child gets a good environment to grow like man. I want to conclude my feeling with a final note. Do not make them feel they are 50% weaker than men are but make them feel like they are 100% equal to man and capable to compete with man in equal basis.
PS : This Article was first published at astitwa.com under His Point of view section.
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